I started this blog at a transitional point in my life. A fresh college graduate I experienced all the difficulties that came from the post-grad life. From paying bills to managing my first job, I was thrown into adulthood with an overwhelming amount of responsibilities. For the first time in my life, I questioned everything–my career, my goals, my relationships… my past, my present, and my future.
And it was with this blog that I began a truth-seeking journey to answer everything it was I questioned.
Too Mature For My Age?
The way I bond with people up to 10 years older than me, I can’t help but think that I am indeed an old soul in a young body. Yeah I’m still young, and I still make pretty stupid mistakes… however as for my personal values, I can argue that I’m very mature for my age. I’m old fashion when it comes to love. I like listening to Lauryn Hill, Brian McKnight, and Tupac. I can ramble on, but I’ll spare you the details of my life.
At 23, I feel as though I don’t care about what most people in my generation care about.
Some of my peers may think that I have plenty of time to focus on my career, on love, on building my life, and that I should focus on having fun. Date more, party more, spend more, drink more, “YOLO” it more. I rather write more, travel more, work more, figure out MY FUTURE more. WHY? Because if not now then when?
Last night my big sister from another mister Leigh shared a great TED video with me, and now I’m sharing it with you because it hints at how important this transitional decade (your 20s) is.
In the video, Clinical psychologist Meg Jay argues that your 20s are what shapes the rest of your adulthood. Contrary to popular belief, your 20s are not a throwaway decade. Whether you change for better or for worse, most of that change happens in your 20s. She gives 3 pieces of advice for how 20 can re-claim adulthood in this defining decade of their lives.
Watch her bold message for 20-somethings:
WHELP. I have no boyfriend, I have multiple careers, and I’m living with my grandma as my roommate 😀 –I might not have it all figured out, but the steps are there. My drive and hunger are there. The hunger for a purpose. The drive to be the BEST possible version of me there is. Life is hard. Change is hard. But embrace the growth. I finally know what I want in life and it’s exciting!.. 😀
If you like the video, I recommend Meg Jay’s book “The Defining Decade”, where she gives some crucial mistakes we 20 year olds make. Suggesting that many of us don’t know how important our 20s are. We are confused during what is actually the most transformative — and defining — period of our adult lives.