20 something Part deux

IMG_6180A little late, but I promised a continuation… Yes! one thing I can procrastinate on… my own blog.  It sounds cliché to say New Year, New Me, New Blog. BUT I DO FEEL LIKE A NEW ME. Growth. I won’t lie to you and say that I’ve been on my game–working out in the gym everyday, eating healthy 24/7, paying my bills on time, with a permanent smile on my face. eh, NONE OF THE ABOVE. But I will say this I’m the happiest I’ve been in a while, even with all my problems. And that is thanks to my faith in God and my faith in MYSELF. A positive attitude has gotten me a long way.

SO,

Have a little more faith in yourself. Be the best YOU you can be, Hard work and dedication, no matter who the employer, are admirable traits. If you find yourself unsatisfied with a job, convince yourself that you’re just doing so as a means to get by until you achieve your goals. Every opportunity that molds you and brings you closer to your dreams should be greeted passionately by you.

“The lessons I’ve learned in my failures will forever be more valuable than any success I’ll ever have.” -Kirk Franklin

Have a little more faith in your dream. Having high hopes and aspirations for the future is a great thing, it’s just important to draw the line somewhere. Picturing a fantasy world in which you own nice things, are surrounded by beautiful people, and have piles of money isn’t going to bring those things to fruition. The dreaming is the easy part, it’s the living that requires some heavy lifting and effort.

Have a little more faith in other people. Treat others how you would want to be treated. Try to do as much good to others–it will make for a better you and a better world. Kill ’em with kindness might not seem like it’s working in your favor, but it is. Don’t let other people phase you or make you bitter. If someone is acting like a jerk 24/7… just think it’s probably because they are more miserable than you.

Have a little more faith in God. How powerful it is to restore your faith. And I can attest to that; because the moment I accepted His love, my life had brand new meaning. I’m not here telling you to go to church and read the bible everyday, but have faith and believe that someone is out there.. blessing you and helping you on your journey. Stay positive.

xoxo

20 somethings

Had a profound conversation last night with one of my closest friends which inspired this post. She has everything a girl could ever hope for at 24–a great steady career, her own apartment, her own car… but, no boyfriend. As she asked me over and over “what is wrong with me?” My first reaction was to think of something sarcastic to say. However, as mean and as brutally honest as I am with my friends, in reality NOTHING is wrong with her. She is perfect. Gorgeous (legit looks like a model), with an amazing smile, kind heart, and great personality. And then I couldn’t help but think, well if she can’t get a boyfriend there sure is no hope for me.

We blabbed on and on about how some of our friends were already married and having kids. “I swear if I see one more engaged status, or ultrasound photo”. And with the thought of not wanting to get left behind, it can be discouraging to see fellow colleagues’ relationship or career statuses on social media…. we start to want what they have.

 And THEREIN LIES THE PROBLEM….

You probably thought, like I did, that once you graduated college you would have your life all figured out. That somehow that diploma would magically guide you, and life would come full circle. For some that’s true, but for others, the drastic change just makes life more complicated.

You are now officially an adult but aren’t living life like one… where’s my full-time job, my husband, my house with the white-picket fence?? Ha.

Well…..

I am more responsible financially (sort of), I cook for myself (most days), and wear big girl clothes now! (to work) 🙂 …. I do love the fact that I am growing and maturing into this adult, but LIFE doesn’t happen overnight. Some of my friends are still in school, some are engaged, and some already have the husband the kids and white-picket fence… Although we are around the same age, we are all at different points in our lives. My life may be going in a different direction but I must embrace it, and embrace my individual growth.

It’s not fair for you to live your life off of somebody else’s timeline….

Build your own resume of memories. Test things out, fail and succeed. Too often people forget that the 20s is the ideal decade for trial and error.

 So STOP. Stop with the worrying, stressing, depressing statuses of circumstances that haven’t even happened yet!! Don’t put set dates on your career or marriage, you’ll be much happier living life and having an open mind. Each chapter in your life comes with new challenges (and God knows I could not handle having a boyfriend right now), when the time is right, it will come. Experience life and keep E V O L V I N G. Embrace it. Embrace becoming an adult. Empower yourself, motivate yourself. Love yourself and become your #1 obsession. Everything we really want will come in due time. Live life at your own pace and you’ll see how much happier you’ll be….

Seems like I’m on a roll here…..but since football is on, and it took me almost the entire day to write this…. I’ll can take a rain check on the rest of this conversation….

xo

Yummy Smoothie for colds :)

I absolutely despise being sick. The achy pain and congestion, the staying at home in bed all day with a mountain of runny-nose tissues…not. for. me.

Today I made this delicious smoothie for my sickly grandpa. Thought I’d share the recipe given the recent flu epidemic that has unavoidably caught up to a lot of my friends 😦

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Delicious and Nutritious. Enjoy =]

IMG_5773Smoothie for Immune System Boost

-1 carrot

-2 slices of frozen pineapple (I freeze my fruit to avoid adding ice)

-1 cup of natural orange juice

-a handful of frozen strawberries

-4 sliced bits of ginger (you can substitute the ginger with garlic)

***Adding ginger or garlic to your meals can help alleviate colds symptoms, since both help build a strong immune system. Garlic also posses several antiviral, antibacterial and anti-fungal properties.

*Also, Ginger snaps or other kinds of ginger candy, so so so good! and good for colds 🙂

Live Good. Eat Good. Feel Good.

And Stay Healthy!

Am I a Buddhist?

“Life is both dreadful and wonderful… How can I smile when I am filled with so much sorrow? It is natural―you need to smile to your sorrow because you are more than your sorrow.”  ―Thich Nhat Hanh

People often ask me if I am a Buddhist or a Christian. Well, I believe in Jesus Christ, therefore I am a Christian. I am a Christian with an open mind and an open heart. I’ve dedicated a semester studying religions from Christianity, Judaism, Islam, and Buddhism. I fell in love with the teachings of Buddhism. I, however, don’t see Buddhism as a religion…but more as a way of life. The teachings are beautiful, enlightening, and make for a better world and a better you.

So for those who question, ridicule, or are just curious about what exactly Buddhism is, I have a little lesson for you…

What is Buddhism?

Buddhism is a religion to about 300 million people around the world. The word comes from ‘budhi’, ‘to awaken’. It has its origins about 2,500 years ago when Siddhartha Gotama (known as the Buddha) was himself awakened (enlightened) at the age of 35.

Is Buddhism a Religion?

To many, Buddhism goes beyond religion and is more of a philosophy or “way of life”. It is a philosophy because philosophy “means love of wisdom” and the Buddhist path can be summed up as:

(1) to lead a moral life,
(2) to be mindful and aware of thoughts and actions, and
(3) to develop wisdom and understanding.

How Can Buddhism Help Me?

Buddhism explains a purpose to life, it explains apparent injustice and inequality around the world, and it provides a code of practice or way of life that leads to true happiness.

Why is Buddhism Becoming Popular?

Buddhism is becoming popular in developed western countries for a number of reasons, The first good reason is Buddhism has answers to many of the problems in modern materialistic societies. It also includes a deep understanding of the human mind (and natural therapy) which prominent psychologists around the world are now discovering to be both very advanced and effective.

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Who Was the Buddha?

Siddhartha Gotama was born into a royal family in Lumbini, now located in Nepal, in 563 BC.

At 29, he realized that wealth and luxury did not guarantee happiness, so he explored the different teachings religions and philosophies of the day, to find the key to human happiness. After six years of study and meditation he finally found ‘the middle path’ and was enlightened. After enlightenment, the Buddha spent the rest of his life teaching the principles of Buddhism — called the Dhamma, or Truth — until his death at the age of 80.

Was the Buddha a God?

He was not, nor did he claim to be. He was a man who taught a path to enlightenment from his own experience.

Do Buddhists Worship Idols?

Buddhists sometimes pay respect to images of the Buddha, not in worship, nor to ask for favors. A statue of the Buddha with hands rested gently in its lap and a compassionate smile reminds us to strive to develop peace and love within ourselves.

Why are so Many Buddhist Countries Poor?

One of the Buddhist teachings is that wealth does not guarantee happiness and also wealth is impermanent. The people of every country suffer whether rich or poor, but those who understand Buddhist teachings can find true happiness.

Are There Different Types of Buddhism?

There are many different types of Buddhism, because the emphasis changes from country to country due to customs and culture. What does not vary is the essence of the teaching — the Dhamma or truth.

Are Other Religions Wrong?

Buddhism is also a belief system which is tolerant of all other beliefs or religions. Buddhism agrees with the moral teachings of other religions but Buddhism goes further by providing a long term purpose within our existence, through wisdom and true understanding. Real Buddhism is very tolerant and not concerned with labels like ‘Christian’, ‘Muslim’, ‘Hindu’ or ‘Buddhist’; that is why there have never been any wars fought in the name of Buddhism. That is why Buddhists do not preach and try to convert, only explain if an explanation is sought.

How do I Become a Buddhist?

Buddhist teachings can be understood and tested by anyone. Buddhism teaches that the solutions to our problems are within ourselves not outside. The Buddha asked all his followers not to take his word as true, but rather to test the teachings for themselves. This way, each person decides for themselves and takes responsibility for their own actions and understanding. This makes Buddhism less of a fixed package of beliefs which is to be accepted in its entirety, and more of a teaching which each person learns and uses in their own way.

info from http://www.BuddhaNet.net*

Keep Ya Head Up

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First Verse of Tupac’s Keep Ya Head UP.

Some say the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice,
I say the darker the flesh, then the deeper the roots.
I give a holler to my sisters on welfare…Tupac cares, if don’t nobody else care.

And uhh, I know they like to beat ya down a lot.
When you come around the block, brothas clown a lot.
But please don’t cry, dry your eyes, never let up, forgive but don’t forget, girl keep your head up.
And when he tells you you ain’t nothin don’t believe him.
And if he can’t learn to love you you should leave him.
Cause sista you don’t need him.
And I ain’t tryin to gas ya up, I just call em how I see em.

You know it makes me unhappy…..When brothas make babies, and leave a young mother to be a papi.
And since we all came from a woman, got our name from a woman, and our game from a woman.
I wonder why we take from our women, why we rape our women….

….do we hate our women?
I think it’s time to kill, for our women.
Time to heal our women, be real to our women.
And if we don’t we’ll have a race of babies,
That will hate the ladies, that make the babies.
And since a man can’t make one…He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one.

So will the real men get uppp, I know you’re fed up ladies, but keep your head up!

My Blog – First Post

I really miss blogging. And I really miss writing. A IMG_0076personal blog, that I’ve been delaying for months now.

First, I couldn’t decide on a theme.. Should I make it about health? sports? fashion? Second, I realized people might actually read this. Social media is a persona, a blog is more personal… Scary… so I delayed the release of my blog, and made offers to freelance for sports and fashion magazines to fill the void. Then I realized there is a lot more to me. A lot more than just sports. A lot more I want to share. So why not write whatever the hell I feel like writing about, whenever the hell I feel like writing it…

Am I really willing to write and expose my thoughts? be open for judgement?

Yeah.

I don’t care who reads this and I don’t care if it’s any good. It’s going to be real and it’s going to be raw. I lost myself once upon a time. I need to figure out who I am. And this is where I’d find her.

So here I am. Writing about sports, health, fashion, Buddhism, love, and all the things that make me happy. All the things I LOVE to write about, talk about, and share. Hoping to inspire you and awaken myself; mi alma.

Find YOURSELF, find your JOURNEY, find your PURPOSE… and fall in love with ALL of the above.